Over the past few days, the Holy Spirit has been dealing with me about the importance of how we communicate with others. He has been revealing to me scripture showing me both how to and how not to communicate to others.
In Ephesians 4:29, it says: Watch the way you talk. Let nothing foul or dirty come out of your mouth. Say only what helps, each word a gift. And in Ephesians 4:31, it says: Make a clean break with all cutting, backbiting, and profane talk.
Now Yahweh isn’t just talking about swearing or using cuss words. He’s also talking about gossiping about someone behind their backs. Or saying mean hateful things to people.
Though a servant of Jesus shouldn’t go around swearing up a storm or cussing left and right, the things we say about people matter. Our words carry weight and power with them. They have the power to create or destroy. To build up or to tear down.
In Proverbs 18:21 it says: Words kill, words give life; they’re either poison or fruit—you choose.
One single word can destroy a person and leave them feeling stupid or worthless. And one word can encourage a person and cause them to come alive and believe in themselves and in Yahweh for the first time in their lives.
In Ephesians 4:3 we are taught: Always be humble and gentle. Be patient with one another, making allowance for each other’s faults because of you love. (NLT)
As servants of Yahweh and of Christ, be extremely careful with our words. Our words have authority. Jesus taught is that whatever we loose on earth is loosed in Heaven. And that if we say to a mountain, “be removed and cast into the sea!” or say to this tree “Be moved from here to there”, it will obey you.
So if we’re always putting someone down, whether its to their face or behind their back, we are speaking curses into their lives. We are not just tearing them down in man’s eyes, but in Yahweh’s eyes as well. We are declaring before Yahweh and man that that person is dumb, worthless or not good enough. That this person will never mount to anything. That they have no purpose and will never amount to anything.
We are also speaking spiritual curses into their lives and putting a stumbling block in front of them.
That person will begin to start feeling the fruits of how we are talking about them. They will start to doubt themselves and feel worthless and stupid. They will begin to feel depressed and unwanted. This leads a person down a dark path to destruction.
This grieves the Holy Spirit. In Ephesians 4:30 , it says “Don’t grief God (Yahweh). Don’t break His heart. His Holy Spirit, moving and breathing in you, is the most intimate part of you life, making you fit for Himself. Don’t take such a gift for granted.”
The first part of this verse tells us that we shouldn’t grieve the Holy Spirit by speaking evil of others and putting them down. Not even in jest. It is also written that we should put off all coarse jesting and all malice.
But on the flip side, if we speak life into others and build them up in the eyes of those around them and go around telling others how special they are, we are speaking spiritual blessings into their lives.
They will begin to feel that they have value and that their lives matter. They will see the abilities, talents and gifts that Yahweh put into them. They will begin to have hope and look forward to things to come. This will lead them not only to a bright future, but onto Salvation.
Because as they see how much we care about him, they’ll begin to understand how much Yahweh loves them.
That’s why it is written: Bless and do not curse.
In 1 Peter 4:11, it says ” If anyone speaks, let him speak as the oracles (messagers, prophets) If anyone ministers, let him do it as with the ability which God supplies, that in all things God may be glorified through Jesus Christ, to whom belong the glory and the dominion forever and ever. Amen. (NKJV)
That is why the Holy Spirit has been dealing with me about how (we) communicate. We live in a lost and dying world where people are being told that life doesn’t matter and has no meaning. They have lost hope and feel that the world would be better without them.
We need to be the lights of the world to this dying generation. We need to speak life into those around us. To show them the love of Yahweh demonstrated by Christ Jesus and revealed though us by the power of the Holy Spirit.
So I challenge you all, just as the Holy Spirit is challenging me, to watch your words. To be careful what we say to others and how we treat and communicate with them and how we talk about those Yahweh had put into our lives.
Remember, we are His ambassadors to this world and to those around us.
Ill leave you with the following verse: 1 Thessalonians 2:4-12 God tested us thoroughly to make sure we were qualified to be trusted with this Message. Be assured that when we speak to you we’re not after crowd approval—only God approval. Since we’ve been put through that battery of tests, you’re guaranteed that both we and the Message are free of error, mixed motives, or hidden agendas. We never used words to butter you up. No one knows that better than you. And God knows we never used words as a smoke screen to take advantage of you.