Me write a blog?? I cringe at the word. I tried writing one for my employer and failed miserably. I’ve read blogs written by coworkers and they seemed so professional, they flowed so nicely. I decided I was just not created to blog, and I don’t even really like reading them.
In February 2019, I met a pastor who needed secretarial help for his new ministry. I was excited to be doing God’s work, something new and different! About 1 month after being on the board, he asked me if I would consider writing a blog for the website. I confidently declined explaining that I had tried writing for my job once and it didn’t work out so well. He said that it was fine.. Phew, that was easy! Then about 3 months later he asked me again. “really?” I thought, but the more I thought and prayed about it, I kind of liked the idea! I do have things I would like to express but have not been given the gift of gab, so, why not try it? If it’s God’s will, then He will help me, right?
God laid it on my heart today to write about forgiveness. We have all been offended and disappointed in our lives. We are human and are not perfect beings.. however, knowing this does not make it any easier when someone does something that offends US!! “Someone parked in my parking spot in front of my house—how dare they? Now I have to look for another spot and walk an extra 10 steps to my house!”
What about disappointments? I learned that our unmet expectations of others will inevitably leave us disappointed. I have done this a lot in the past and I still have to remind myself when I do this, to not be expectant of others. Sounds reasonably easy, right? But what about when there are issues among family members? When people refuse to talk to one another for years because of something that someone did or did not do, something that was said or not said. It has been sad to watch both sides of my family harbor unforgiveness toward each other. It makes holidays and special occasions difficult, especially recently the birth of my granddaughter.
God reminded me that when we release the other person of owing us something it is freeing!! He will deal with them, I don’t have to, I am NOT the judge! As it says in Romans 2 “No matter who you are, if you judge anyone, you have no excuse. When you judge another person, you condemn yourself, since you, the judge do the same things!” This frees us from carrying the burden of unforgiveness.. Thank you Jesus that you allow me to be free to love people no matter what they have done, or will do to me or to someone else.
When I was going through my divorce God showed me Romans 12:19. “Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath for it is written. “It is mine to avenge, I will repay” says the Lord.” This verse brought me great comfort during a very difficult time. Knowing that God would deal with the other person gave me peace, because I didn’t have to take matters into my own hands.
Is it possible to “forgive and forget”? Well, it’s almost impossible for us to forget when someone offends us, but when we choose to forgive people, we release them to God. He can deal with them better than we can anyway. We must choose to love others by putting their needs before our own. This has been an eye opener for me as an only child growing up I was very self-centered and also as a young adult. I still have to keep reminding myself when I am being self-centered and ask God to help me be more others-centered. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 says, “Love is patient, love is kind, it does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud, it is not rude, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.” I pray that you will start walking in love and lose the burden of unforgiveness in your life. -Amen